I believe that finding the person God has called you to marry is simplicity itself and that the countless stupid anxieties characteristic of almost all romantic intrigue that takes place in this culture is easily avoidable and completely unnecessary. This is my advice to those who are trying to find a mate:

Don't Date: The way that someone interacts with someone who they perceive themselves to be “dating” is fundamentally dishonest, disordered & destructive. Their personality gets boiled down to the qualities that they believe their partner will find appealing, making them a caricature, not an individual. Also, when a dating relationship ends it tends to leave an aftertaste so foul in the mouth of the unhappy ex-couple that no possibility of real continued friendship exists.

Don't Trust Your Own Judgment: It is dangerous to assume that we know what the perfect person for us will be like. We don't have a clue and our notions of this are often quite ridiculous. The perfect person for us is to good to be like anything that we thought of. 

One Year Rule: Absolutely refuse to consider someone one way or the other until you have known them for at least one year. And I don't mean have been aware of their existence, without consistently spending time with someone over an extended period of time you simply do not have enough information to be making accurate judgments about anything. 

Suffer Together: If you are meant to be together for the rest of your lives, you can count on suffering together a lot. It is auspicious to discover how well that works well in advance. Also, if it doesn't make you jump ship, it will bring you much closer together like nothing else can.

Be Patient: If you're meant to get them, you will. Take no heed of anything that seems to be in the way, no heed whatsoever.

Honesty: Make sure that you never allow anybody to fall in love with a persona that you put on to impress them. They must see what you are really like so that they can find out whether  they really like you. No act can be kept up indefinitely, and when the act stops there is bloodshed and tears.